Michael R. Hayden

Born: Tue., Dec. 26, 1961
Died: Tue., Jun. 18, 2019

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Michael R. Hayden, 57, passed away unexpectedly in a traffic accident in Highland, NY on June 18, 2019.  He was born in Washington, DC on November 26, 1961 to the late Alonzo R. Hayden and Alma L. Hayden. Michael lived in Poughkeepsie, NY and the Hudson Valley area. His most recent employer was SKIP of NY – Sick Kids [Need] Involved People. Mike participated in The Clemente Course for the Humanities, graduating from Bard College (2005) with a Bachelors degree in Psychology and Music. Mike was a musician with a passion for guitar and a beautiful voice, writing and performing whenever he could.  Mike had a deep faith in God, a big heart and a contagious laugh.  While private, he also had a gift for connecting with others with genuine respect. Mike leaves behind family and friends who love and miss him madly. A celebration of Michael’s life is being planned. Memorials can be sent in his name to one of the following: The Clemente Course in the Humanities (www.clementecourse.org) or Walker|West Music Academy (www.walkerwest.org).  To send online condolences, please visit www.darrowfuneralhome.org

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Susan Deane-Miller
   Posted Sun July 07, 2019
I remember Michael from when he worked at Family Services in Poughkeepsie.We will get together and play music frequently, and we would talk philosophy and politics and saving the world. I never knew a kinder person. I lost track of him when he went to Bard, when he left Family Services. I have grieved for that loss for years, not really knowing where he had gone and no longer having a way to reach out to him. Now I know, and my heart hurts. I am very sorry for the family's loss.

Natia Porter
   Posted Wed July 10, 2019
I met Michael in September 2018 after purchasing the Historic house in Poughkeepsie, the city I fell in love on the first sight. Michael was my first tenant and we signed the lease without even meeting each other.

In the following months, I got to know Michael closely and I was absolutely impressed by his extreme sense of honesty, responsibility, and kindness. What was more impressive is that he was absolutely conscious of his values, which he guarded and practiced with absolute commitment.

Michael was a person who believed in living and leading by example. I know Michael truly cared about people because he wrote essays about social justice. Michael also wrote and practiced music.

His loss is unexpected, unfair and heartbreaking -- he had dreams and plans he was working towards.

I believe Michael made his beautiful mark on the earth, I just wish that he had had more time here. Michael was a believer and I want to believe that his superior talent and humanity will materialize in heaven.

Gabriel Marks-Mulcahy
   Posted Wed January 22, 2020
I went to Bard College with Michael (Big Mike) from 2000-2005. We spent many hours talking, laughing, and playing music together. Mike was one of a kind; warm hearted, giving, smart, and sensitive. He was a mean guitar player and a true mensch. We stayed in touch over the years, but as too often happens, our lives drifted apart. I was unaware of his passing until today when a mutual friend delivered the sad news. I'll remember Mike as the eternal optimist who treated everybody with dignity and kindness. He was a man of faith and a true humanist. I'll miss my friend. Love and condolences to his family and friends.